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Monday, March 29, 2010
National HIV Testing Day on JUNE 27, 2010
National HIV Testing Day (NHTD) is an annual campaign coordinated by the National Association of People with AIDS to encourage people of all ages to "Take the Test, Take Control."
Day 7 - Carl Crosco - The Hot Boys Sexpert
Our sexpert Carl Crosco is back and setting the record gayly forward! He has so much to share and out of rehab. The Hot Boys Sexpert, Carl Crosco is sharing his life! He talks about living with HIV and how he continues to find his purpose and direction every single day as a son, lover, educator and friend.
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Q:What can you take if you believe you have been exposed to the HIV virus last night?
A: How REYATAZ Can Help
REYATAZ is an HIV medication available by prescription. It is in a class of HIV medications called protease inhibitors. Protease inhibitors are a kind of HIV medication that fight HIV in the body by preventing the virus from multiplying.
REYATAZ is a protease inhibitor, a type of HIV medication that helps the virus from destroying CD4+ cells.
Once-daily REYATAZ has been demonstrated effective in managing HIV. As part of an HIV therapy regimen, once-daily REYATAZ:
•Is taken once daily with food.
•Can help raise your CD4+ cell (or T-cell) count. CD4+ cells are an important part of your immune system. The more CD4+ cells you have, the stronger your immune system.
•Can help lower your viral load to undetectable levels.* That means REYATAZ can lower the amount of HIV in your blood until it cannot be measured by current tests.
•Has a low chance of diarrhea (a 1-3% rate of moderate-to-severe diarrhea clinical trials).
For most people, the recommended dose of REYATAZ is one 300 mg pill taken once daily with ritonavir as part of HIV combination therapy. For people who have never taken HIV medicines before and cannot tolerate ritonavir, the recommended dose of REYATAZ is two 200 mg pills once daily as part of HIV combination therapy.
REYATAZ does not cure HIV or help prevent passing HIV to others.
* "Undetectable" is defined as a viral load that is too low to be picked up by a particular test. Typically, it is a viral load of less than 400 or 50 copies/mL (depending on test used).
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AIDS Walk and APLA raise $3.1 million
Congratulations to 30,000 AIDS walkers who joined us on October 19 and raised more than $3.1 million for APLA and other AIDS service organizations throughout Los Angeles County!
We're already putting your generosity to work to prevent HIV among youth and people of color, to support those who are too sick to leave their homes and to secure the future of programs that provide life-saving care for people who rely on government support. We're making progress on our new South Los Angeles dental clinic, which will offer first-rate treatment to an underserved community. And later this month, each of our Necessities of Life Program food pantry clients will receive groceries for a special Thanksgiving holiday meal.
It's not too late to sponsor an AIDS walker or to join us at a holiday food drive. Your support makes our work possible.
Craig E. ThompsonExecutive Director
What's New
APLA has published the seventh edition of Corpus, a journal that uses art, cultural criticism, poetry, short stories and humor to reveal the challenges of HIV prevention in gay and bisexual communities.
This issue, subtitled "Desire Between Men: Voces Mundial" [Worldwide Voices], was released to coincide with the 2008 International AIDS Conference and features an international theme with a collection of invited works from around the globe.
Skillfully compiled by guest editor Andy Quan, each piece offers a global perspective on issues of HIV infection, stigma, discrimination, violence and homophobia. According to United Nations' estimates, fewer than 1 in 20 men who have sex with men worldwide has access to HIV prevention, care and treatment. Download a copy of Corpus from our Web site.
Profile
For Garry Brown and wife Crystal, the simple instruction was daunting: "Don’t take medication on an empty stomach." It meant that, on some nights, Garry and Crystal would skip their vital HIV treatment simply because there was no meal to accompany it."That’s when we discovered the Necessities of Life Program food pantry just down the street from where we live," Garry recalls.
He and his wife visit each week, stocking their refrigerator with groceries and hygiene supplies. And they attend food demonstrations and meet with an APLA dietitian, who helps them develop a healthy eating plan and stick to their treatment regimens. "NOLP is a lifesaver for us," Garry says. "And this Thanksgiving, we'll even have leftovers!"Learn more about our food pantry network and how you can help keep our shelves stocked for the holidays.
Giving
Independent business owners and parents of three, Klaus and Jami Heidegger keep a demanding schedule. But the family also makes helping others a priority. "My father always told me that anyone is capable of changing another person's life for the better, and I've carried that with me," Klaus says. When the Heideggers lost several close friends to AIDS, they resolved to do whatever they could to fight the epidemic. "Supporting APLA… is so important to us," Klaus explains. "I see the organization expanding in our community -- doing more for people who are struggling -- and we want to make sure that work continues." It's an instinct Klaus and Jami have instilled in their children, as well: "Our daughter now volunteers to cook at a local food bank," he says. "We all have to offer support in our community however we can."
Visit our Web site and learn how you can join the fight.
Take Action
On October 23, APLA joined with Physicians for Human Rights (PHR) and the UCLA Program in Global Health to host "Politics and Realities of Global and Local AIDS," a town hall meeting to discuss the current state of efforts to combat the AIDS pandemic both internationally and here in the United States.
Participants included (above, from left) PHR CEO Frank Donaghue; Physicians for Human Rights (PHR) Health Action AIDS Campaign Director Pat Daoust; Associate Director of the UCLA AIDS Institute, Director of the UCLA Program in Global Health and Advisor to PHR’s Health AIDS Action campaign Dr. Thomas Coates; Congressman Howard Berman (D-CA); Honorable Dr. Elioda Tumwesigye, APLA Executive Director Craig E. Thompson; and Associate Director of the UCLA AIDS Institute and Professor of Psychiatry and Biobehavioral Sciences, Semel Institute at UCLA Dr. Gail Wyatt.
Amid reports that more people than ever before (over 1.1 million) are now living with HIV/AIDS in the U.S., panelists called for the development of a national AIDS strategy to fight the domestic epidemic.Learn more about APLA's global advocacy or join our online activist network today.
Photos of the Month
A record-setting crowd of more than 30,000 filled the streets of West Hollywood and Los Angeles for AIDS Walk Los Angeles on Sunday, October 19. View a selection of photos from the event at the AIDS Walk photo gallery.
Photo credits: Brian Lowe, Elise Caitlin, Alan Gastelum
The Last Word
"There are 2.1 million people dying of AIDS every year. If instead of AIDS those people were on planes that were falling from the sky, it would be more than 5,000 planes. The U.N. Security Council would call an emergency meeting. The world would stop -- and everyone would try to solve this problem. Instead, it's business as usual."
-- The Honorable Dr. Elioda Tumwesigye, chair of the Committee on HIV/AIDS and Related Matters of Uganda, speaking at the October 23 town hall meeting, "Politics and Realities of Global and Local AIDS."
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Friday, October 31, 2008
HIV & Healthy Diet
Hello Again!!!! Thanks to all of you for coming back to my blog. Hopefully you have found some useful information and that you see it as not to technical. I try but sometimes I guess I could get to technical or statistically oriented. If I do and it doesn’t work for you let met know. I want to be as factual as possible so as not to give any info that isn’t pertinent to you but remember I am just a guy like you. I just feel a calling to share my experiences and as much information as I can so we all can live our lives to the fullest.Something really wonderful has happened since I took on this challenge of providing solid information. Not only am I passing along what I have learned but my research is also educating me. Sort of a refresher course in some areas and a definite new learning experience in others. It is the best of both worlds!!
Okay! “Nuff of that. Let’s move on.
Living with HIV is not, repeat, NOT my weakness in life nor has it been my downfall. Granted, when I was first diagnosed and before I took control I did have a major pity party as I have mentioned to you in previous blogs. But soon I learned that having HIV is not just part of me but who I am. It has been and will be one of the strongest stepping stones in my life.
I have lived with this infection for over a decade. Right now I have never looked better. Don’t believe me? Check out my pic. Unlike the old saying “you can’t judge a book by its cover” in my case you can. Ok. Ok. Maybe I’m being a little (?) egotistical and a little (?) narcissistic but hey! when you got it – you got it! If you will let me educate and empower you with the information I have those of you that have contracted this infection will see it is not the end. Hell – it can be and for me was, the beginning.
When I take a good look at my past I have no doubt whatsoever getting HIV was the biggest wake up call I would ever have. Yes I wondered if God had forsaken me (Remember I told you I believe in God) and had condemned me with HIV. But I know now He didn’t. I am not angry (that left long ago) and I definitely don’t have those pity parties anymore. I can truly say I have no regrets. In some way, and I know this will sound strange, I only have a sense of relief. I can’t explain it but it is there. When I wake up every morning with a smile on my face I know I am blessed. I have many things to offer and this blog is just one.
11 years is a very long time. If you have been following my blogs you know I do not take the “cocktail” and my counts are excellent. Just like me, you hold the keys to your future. You can make having HIV a barrier to living life or you can take it little by little and move on towards a full and happy life.
Now something about healthy living with HIV. Your diet is crucial. I eat a lot of poultry, steak and drink a lot of milk. I make sure I get as much protein as possible from the foods I eat. Carbs are particularly good for people with HIV. Pasta, potatoes, bread. I don’t overeat. I’m not a calorie counter but I know when I should stop and I do. I drink a lot of different things making sure I am as hydrated as possible at all times. I also eat foods that are high in fiber. That is critical at least to me. Yes I do drink alcohol and sometimes more than I should but what did I say? I am living my life.
Personally I have to eat a lot but I don’t, as I said, overeat. My metabolism is high so if I don’t keep “fuel in the furnace” I’ll run down which could cause some issues as you can imagine. Exercise? I honestly don’t get enough but I am not a couch potato. Still, it wouldn’t hurt me to get to the gym more often. (Hmmmm! Just thought. There are some other reasons to go there, too, LOL) One thing for sure. If you eat right, exercise some, and generally take care of yourself you will feel and look great. Come to think of it whether you have HIV or not that should be your mantra. If you are on the “cocktail” nutrition is a major key in the break down of the HIV meds.
I guess one of the biggest things (and was hard for me) is to remember it is your life. If you have the attitude of being sorry for yourself then, hell, give it up. If that is you get over it!! You got the bug and once you have it you have it. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself get off your ass and do something that will make you have a super release of those wonderful endorphins. Exercise will do that. Food, in moderation, will do that. Being with friends will do that, too.
I want to feel that I am here as more than just the “sexpert”. I can and want to be a companion and a lifetime friend who will be true to you. I had to “man up”, as my dad says, and get the balls to come out again. This time letting everyone know I had HIV. Candidly, coming out gay was a helluva lot easier but I am so glad I no longer hide (from myself) that I am HIV positive. Actually, not keeping the secret is very beneficial to my well being and, in turn, I now am able to share what could possibly be some life saving or, at the least, life changing, information with you.
I just read what I have written and guess I really got to rambling. Oh well. Sometime that is how conversations go. Lots of rambling but lots of information put out. Anyways, it is time to close for now. But, I do want to tell all of you and especially those of you who are positive that you are not alone. In life you can either “choose to” or “choose not to”. I chose “to”.. live life, that is. I have a fantastic life. I surround myself with positive people and I grow each day. Everyone can do the same. You just got to “choose to”.
Until next time – Be Safe, Be Smart and always stay 10 steps ahead. Send me your questions and comments and I will answer at sexpert@thbworld.tv
Your Sexpert,
I want to feel that I am here as more than just the “sexpert”. I can and want to be a companion and a lifetime friend who will be true to you. I had to “man up”, as my dad says, and get the balls to come out again. This time letting everyone know I had HIV. Candidly, coming out gay was a helluva lot easier but I am so glad I no longer hide (from myself) that I am HIV positive. Actually, not keeping the secret is very beneficial to my well being and, in turn, I now am able to share what could possibly be some life saving or, at the least, life changing, information with you.
I just read what I have written and guess I really got to rambling. Oh well. Sometime that is how conversations go. Lots of rambling but lots of information put out. Anyways, it is time to close for now. But, I do want to tell all of you and especially those of you who are positive that you are not alone. In life you can either “choose to” or “choose not to”. I chose “to”.. live life, that is. I have a fantastic life. I surround myself with positive people and I grow each day. Everyone can do the same. You just got to “choose to”.
Until next time – Be Safe, Be Smart and always stay 10 steps ahead. Send me your questions and comments and I will answer at sexpert@thbworld.tv
Your Sexpert,
Sunday, October 26, 2008
JUST SAY NO TO PROPOSITION 8
Hey Boys!!!
Yet another beautiful week passes and I am alive and kickin’ and doing great! I am really excited about everything that is going on and I’ll clue you in on just what is going on in future blogs. But for now I need to cover some ground on some real important things for all us.
My first contact with you basically laid out the ground work for my weekly writings where I will touch on many topics that involve us all. As I’ve said, I am going to be as honest as I can and may be sometimes brutally honest. I also have no doubt there will be some things where we will disagree but that is cool. All you’ve got to do is write back and express your opinion. I want this to be an open forum on the many topics that impact our community and your opinions, even those in disagreement with mine, are welcome. Just provide the facts and those facts may result in me changing my opinion. I am very pleased to be able to represent the gay community on so many strong and, to some, controversial topics and your input is vital to me and to all of us.
PROP8
ELIMINATES RIGHT OF SAME–SEX COUPLES TO MARRY. INITIATIVE CONSTITUTIONAL AMENDMENT.
Changes the California Constitution to eliminate the right of same-sex couples to marry in CA.
Provides that only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in CA.
My first topic this week is the upcoming election both national and state. As for national, for now I am not going to say whom I may vote for. Honestly, I still don’t know. Neither of the main presidential candidates excite me and I am not sure who would be best for our country. I wish the choice was clearer. For me, it isn’t. But, one of the big votes in California will be on Proposition 8. Proposition 8 basically eliminates the right of same sex couples to marry. If it passes, it will add a new constitutional amendment to the California Constitution that will say "Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California" and it will be known in law as the California Marriage Protection Act. We definitely need to vote NO on this proposition. Why?
Surprise! It’s not because I want to have the right to marry the man I love because I can. The law permits it now. My main opposition is whose business is it period who we marry? If you and he (or she) are truly in love and committed in the truest sense you should have that right to declare it publicly. Basically, boys, that’s what a wedding ceremony is. A public declaration of love and lifetime commitment.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not advocating someone can marry their brother, sister, aunt, uncle, or dog. But I do not need someone sticking their damn nose in to my business and denying me the right to enjoy my life with the person I love. Proposition 8 will give those gorgeous men in blue (you know who I mean – “Chippies”) the right to lock me up just for doing what has been done for centuries – marrying the person I love. Enough said on this. JUST VOTE NO TO PROPOSITION 8!
One last thing concerning the upcoming election. Regardless, if you are a supporter of McCain, Obama, Barr, Nader, or whomever vote. It is a privilege that many have and will die for. Don’t take it lightly.
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Now, my fellow hot boys. Let’s move on to another topic. Actually a continuation of a topic I briefly mentioned last week. If you recall, I mentioned both HIV 1 and HIV 2 and did briefly detail just what HIV 1 is. This week, I want to give some info on HIV 2.
According to the medical world, studies of HIV 2 have shown that it weakens the immune system more slowly than HIV 1. It is more predominant in Africa than in the U.S. but it is out there. Because the symptoms manifest themselves more slowly this version sorta sneaks up on you. If you are at risk for HIV 1 then ditto for HIV 2. It may be slower but the results are the same. Obviously, only total abstinence will prevent any of us from getting this disease or any STD but I know and you know that ain’t gonna happen. So, use a latex condom. Also, just as with HIV 1, do not share needles (even better don’t do those drugs where you have to inject. And better than that don’t do drugs period), limit your sex partners and, if you are infected, let your partner know. Masturbation, whether solo or with a partner, is also an alternative. Granted, it may be boring but God knows is better than nothing. Google either HIV 1 or 2 for as much information as you want.
If that special someone comes along be smart and insist he be smart also. Remember, “you won’t get sick if you cover his dick.” Safe sex ensures your well being and that of your partner. It feels great and you have a clear conscious because you have done the right thing. Bottom line, every decision you make is totally up to you and can impact your life as well as many other people. Be smart.
Well, that about does it for this edition. Stay tuned for next week’s installment where I will continue to educate, inform, and give you some more of my life history. I want you to get in touch with yourself. Get to know yourself as you will get to know me.
Learning more about HIV and AIDS: AVERT.org has a great deal of information about AIDS, about the global epidemic, HIV and AIDS statistics and education.
Last thing – here is a reminder to all. Gay Pride is going to be in Palm Springs, CA, November 1st and 2nd. Don’t miss the official kick-off for "The Hot Boys World”. I will make an appearance at this event and I am looking forward to seeing everyone there. Also, don’t miss the fabulous Pepper MaShay and Clint Crisher performing at the event. Guarantee something you do not want to miss. Anyway – SEE YOU AT PRIDE!!!!
Your Sexpert,Carl Crosco
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
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Monday, October 20, 2008
The Hot Boys Sexpert Tells His Life Story!
Hello and Good Day Hotties! My name is Carl Crosco. I have a lot to tell you as The Hot Boys Sexpert.I am 29 years old and have recently relocated to California from Virginia where I was a hair stylist and cosmetologist. I also am a make-up artist. Proudly, I am gay (maybe a little to flaming, at times) and make no apologies for my lifestyle. Like many of us, I do not shy away from saying who or what I am but coming from a conservative area (let’s just say that many people in Virginia will not fly on a plane unless it has 2 right wings) there have been many times when I tried to hide or change my identity. Guess I was doing nothing more than lying to myself for I am the happiest when I can be who I am. “Hiding” truly went against my grain and compromised my honesty which I consider to be one of the most important traits for any one.
I am here to be more or less an “ice breaker” and if someone is offended by what is said in this blog then I suggest you get over it. You will get honesty from me and I expect honesty from you. My story is a “life changing” story. It is for me and think will be for you. Above all else, it is true.
Remember when I said honesty is one of the traits I admire most? Well for many years I haven’t been honest in one thing. Not about my gayness but that I have been HIV positive for some time!!! Maybe to some of you that isn’t a big deal. To me it is. I don’t like hiding anything but felt it was necessary so I wouldn’t be ostracized.
Don’t condemn me. I have not, since I was diagnosed, endangered anyone else. I may not have been honest with my partner but I was honest with myself. I could not live knowing I may have infected someone.
We all know that HIV and, worse, AIDS, continues to be rampant in our community. Granted, there have been many steps taken over the years that have resulted in the infection rate being reduced but each day gay men and women are finding out they have been exposed and infected by an uncaring, dishonest, partner. If nothing else, my job on this blog is to educate you, in a non-medical way. Remember, I am not a doctor. I am not anything but a person like you. Unfortunately, I refused to heed the dangers that were (are) out there and now I am paying the consequences. You know what I mean. “Hell, it can’t happen to me. Things like this happen to everyone else.” Well, it can happen to anyone. Enough of the preaching!
I am here to be more or less an “ice breaker” and if someone is offended by what is said in this blog then I suggest you get over it. You will get honesty from me and I expect honesty from you. My story is a “life changing” story. It is for me and think will be for you. Above all else, it is true.
Remember when I said honesty is one of the traits I admire most? Well for many years I haven’t been honest in one thing. Not about my gayness but that I have been HIV positive for some time!!! Maybe to some of you that isn’t a big deal. To me it is. I don’t like hiding anything but felt it was necessary so I wouldn’t be ostracized.
Don’t condemn me. I have not, since I was diagnosed, endangered anyone else. I may not have been honest with my partner but I was honest with myself. I could not live knowing I may have infected someone.
We all know that HIV and, worse, AIDS, continues to be rampant in our community. Granted, there have been many steps taken over the years that have resulted in the infection rate being reduced but each day gay men and women are finding out they have been exposed and infected by an uncaring, dishonest, partner. If nothing else, my job on this blog is to educate you, in a non-medical way. Remember, I am not a doctor. I am not anything but a person like you. Unfortunately, I refused to heed the dangers that were (are) out there and now I am paying the consequences. You know what I mean. “Hell, it can’t happen to me. Things like this happen to everyone else.” Well, it can happen to anyone. Enough of the preaching! Here is my story:
Let’s go back to September, 1998. I was working for an escort agency in Maryland. (No actual names, company or personal, will be used in my story.) This agency offered “extra” services if the client was willing to pay. (Bet that surprised you, huh?) Anyway, I received a call and an appointment was set with a client for sex. I arrived at his house and this hot looking guy (I’ll call him John what else!) met me at the door. I went in, we talked and he offered some crystal meth. We all know this is one of the “drugs of choice” in the gay life. Anyway, we got high, one thing led to another and we had sex. He did use a condom but, and I didn’t find this out until we were finished that he took the condom off. I was out of it so didn’t notice and really didn’t have any concerns. Remember? It couldn’t happen to me.
After the “date” was over I went home and met up with a close friend. We chatted about the night and my date. I mentioned the name of the date and my friend said “you do know he has AIDS, right?” Since “John” had used a condom I wasn’t concerned until I remembered he had taken it off. Then my friend also told me “John” was very sick and, according to some others, didn’t have long. I thought about that, but I felt it couldn’t happen to me.
About 3 weeks later I became really sick. My lymph nodes were sore and swollen. Groin area was really sore and I got odd, white bumps on the roof of my mouth. I went to the doctor, actually a clinic in Washington, DC, where they did all kinds of tests including a test for HIV. I wasn’t really concerned but then was. Know what I mean? Anyway, I went home and was told to return in a week to get the results. Later on, my mind began working and I got scared. Not just a little. A lot!
Now I’m the kinda person who puts things off. With the tests, I decided not to go back to get the results. Guess I figured that if I don’t know then nothing is wrong. Many of the symptoms I mentioned above went away in a short time so there was no need, I thought, to go back. Bad choice.
Remember my “friend” who told me that “John” was dying? Well, I can’t swear to this but I think he is the one who began spreading rumors about me. Rumors that I had full blown AIDS. And since I didn’t have long I was living the high life. Obviously it was almost impossible for me to prove the rumors false because I had not gotten my test results. The rumors were there, I couldn’t disprove them so I said “What the hell!” and truly got out of control. Sex and drugs. Drugs and sex. Rock and roll. Party like it was my last night on earth. Truly, “out of control” did not even come close to describing my life style. Party was my life.
But, in March, 1998, reality struck. I’m not going to say why, but I was jailed in the Fairfax Country Men’s Detention Center. For some reason I decided to have the HIV test and the results were positive. In 2 weeks, I was getting deathly ill. More and more things started happening to me. I had huge, blood blisters in my mouth. My lymph nodes were so swollen they felt like golf balls and sometimes they felt bigger. In the 2 weeks I went from a 32 waist down to a 26 waist and weighed only 132 pounds. I was throwing up blood. To say I was sick was a total understatement. Seriously, I felt like I was dying and not easily.
Think about it. Here I was in jail and with more undesirable people than you could imagine in your worst nightmare, dropping weight every day and sores that would repulse anyone. Talk about alone. I was worse than alone. No doubt I had hit rock bottom. Hell, I was below that.
Somehow, someway some of my strength came back. Not 100% by any means but better than it was. I was released from jail and assigned to a work prison. (By the way I was sent to jail for selling drugs.) At the work prison I kept to myself. No one knew about my illness and I was sure not going to tell anyone. I was very alone and though that may sound bad in some ways it was good. Being alone gave me a chance to take stock of myself. I began to pray. Yes, I do believe in God. I began to do research on this disease I had and see if there was anything out there I could do. I learned to eat healthy which was really the only alternative I had in this environment. I could still live but needed to be extremely careful and not compromise my health in the future. This is what I did for some time.
Jump ahead to November, 12, 1999. I was released and for the first time in a long time was free. Free to do what I wanted to do, when I wanted to, and with whom I wanted to do it with. Amazingly, I forgot everything I had learned. Well, not really. I just put it all in the back of my mind. My health had returned. Maybe not 100% but a hell of a lot better than it was. Though I knew I hadn’t really beat it I convinced myself I had. So I partied.
How else could I celebrate my freedom?
I didn’t just party I mean I PARTIED!!!! If there was a college course in partying I would be the professor. Booze, Drugs, Sex. Booze, Drugs, Sex. Booze, Drugs, Sex. You get the picture. Every night, every day. 24 hrs straight maybe longer. Booze, Drugs, Sex!! But, it caught up to me.
I started feeling like hell and went to a clinic. Long story short, tests showed I had contracted syphilis, mononucleosis, and Hepatitis C. Oh, and my HIV was back. (Like it had left). I was so sick the clinic staff had me immediately admitted to the hospital. Being put on all types of meds I was able to be released after a couple of weeks. Shortly after being released I was put on the “cocktail”.
I was on the “cocktail” along with numerous vitamins and anti-nausea medicine. In total, I was taking 42 pills a day. It took its toll on me. Was hard to hold down any food but I finally developed tolerance for them all and I did get better.
Just like my life, my living with HIV has been done through trial and error. Yes I did make mistakes. Big mistakes. Many times. But I learned and I thank God that I went to jail. I truly feel if I hadn’t been sent to jail I would be dead. I am free of all meds and living a relatively healthy life style. My counts are great – above where they should be. I live relatively stress-free, have a great job doing what I love (hair styling and makeup). I am currently single and am achieving my goals by being persistent but fair in everything I do. I am living life with HIV and showing that even if you do get that dreaded news, it is not the end of life. It actually can be the beginning of an even better life. It takes commitment, realism, and most importantly being totally honest with yourself.
That is my story. I know I left some things out but my hope is you can take something from it and understand that you too can more than just survive with this disease. We all make mistakes and many times are destined to repeat them. If someone like me can learn you can, too.
I want to switch gears and go a different route. I’d like to explain just what HIV is. It’s important we all know just what HIV is because someone we know and love is living with this illness everyday. So now I need to explain this disease not in medical terms for, as you know, I am not a doctor. Just in plain everyday language.
There are 2 types of HIV viruses. HIV 1 causes most cases of AIDS in the USA. HIV is usually spread through unprotected anal sex or through shared needles for drug or steroids. Though rare, infection can be spread through oral sex. The only sure way to avoid infection, other than abstinence, is by ensuring a latex condom is used. I mention latex because there are some natural sheepskin condoms on the market. These do not prevent the spread of the virus as they are made of natural membrane from sheep. The virus can and will spread through these.
If you are HIV positive it is not the end of life. But you must, repeat MUST take precautions. Our community is sometimes our worst enemy. If one of your gay brothers has HIV do not ostracize him and also don’t sympathize. Empathy is fine. Most of us who are positive do not want or need your sympathy. The main thing is if you are positive tell your partner. Safe sex, guys, can be very hot sex. Also, do not be afraid to be tested. It’s better to know and take steps to improve your life than to not know and be like I was for so long.
Right now, the CDC estimates that over 250,000 gay men and women do not know they are carrying the HIV virus. That’s one-quarter of a million people. Get tested!!
Ok. So you get tested and the results are positive. Not the best of news but not a death sentence. About 15 years ago or so, there was no specific treatment for HIV. Today with the steps science and the medical profession have taken people are living longer, much longer. And not just living but enjoying life. I would imagine you know someone who can testify to this. People of all walks of life can and do get HIV. Professional athletes, politicians, priests, and so on and so on. It is not a death sentence and does not have the stigma it once did.
One thing for damn sure. With the presence of HIV, and any STD, it is never ok to have unprotected sex. You are risking your life and that of your partners. If you have HIV, you are risking re-infection. Re-infection means the virus can multiply at a more rapid rate than during the initial infection. That could bring on full blow AIDS which is, simply said, not good. Don’t be stupid. As the saying goes, “wrap that rascal”. This is an illness and disease that does not discriminate. Don’t think for one minute you won’t or can’t get it. I thought that and found out the truth in a way I didn’t think would happen.
In most states, it is a felony offense if you knowingly have the HIV virus or AIDS and infect someone through unprotected sex. You could be charged with involuntary manslaughter or attempted murder. Forget the criminality just don’t be stupid.
I can not stress enough all I said above since my story ended. I have had this disease for almost 11 years. I am extremely careful, I have never looked better or felt better than I do now and I am not on any meds. I eat right (most of the time), I exercise (not enough), and keep alcohol to a minimum (again, most of the time). If you are infected there is no reason you can’t do the same.
I keep my busy both in my job and in hobbies. My T-cell and other counts show I am healthy. But, I don’t kid myself either. I know I have to keep this up or, well………..
Each week you will learn more about me and my life. It is an open book and I hope something I write will help someone. I’m doing this for one simple reason. Life really is to short and if by me giving some information to someone will help them get more out of their life (whether gay or straight) it makes me know my place on this earth is validated. Education is very important but I can only educate or provide answers to those who ask questions. Don’t be afraid to ask. I admit I don’t have all the answers. Hell, very few. But I can listen and I can find the answers for you. If you need a resource I can direct you to where you need to go. Be ready for the truth and be ready for blunt honesty. My life has been a rocky road. There is a hell of a lot I have been through that this story doesn’t even come near to touching. But everything has directed me towards the truth. Took me awhile to find it but I did. You can, too.
Your Sexpert,
Carl Crosco
Clint Crisher LIVE at Tucson Pride
Life Changes by Clint Crisher LIVE at Tucson Pride 2008 from Crisher Entertainment on Vimeo.
Clint Crisher performs Life Changes during his show at Tucson Pride in the Desert 2008. Tucson Pride is an Arizona non-profit corporation and a non-profit organization that produces and promotes cultural, educational and recreational events for the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community in Tucson, Arizona. Life Changes will be included on the movie soundtrack for Conceived In Prison the true life story of Clint Crisher being produced by Crisher Entertainment
Friday, October 17, 2008
Fame Games Vote Needed!
Lick It Pull It Love It Suck It needs your vote!
Fame Games airs to over 1 million listeners on land in the South of Spain and over 2,000,000 internationally, on the web! Fame Games is now far and away the most listened-to Indie music radio program in the world! The regular listenership has reached over 350,000 unique visits (listeners) per month. The artists featured on this show are also heard by established artists, music business professionals and A&R reps from record companies around the world.Fame Games is an International Indie Music Radio Program available for on-demand listening across the Web, Fame Games is also aired on the largest and best-established English-language radio station in the South of Spain, Onda Cero International (101.6 FM and 94.6 FM). Fame Games airs live on Wednesdays: 8:00 PM (Qualifier Show) and Saturdays: 5:00 PM (CET) (Main Show)
Fame Games 199-Q / Tuesday Edition Clint Crisher and Lick It Pull It Love It Suck It
Current Tuesday Q rank: 1 Current Q199 rank: 2 Contenders 2 CLICK BELOW TO VOTE!
Fame Games airs to over 1 million listeners on land in the South of Spain and over 2,000,000 internationally, on the web! Fame Games is now far and away the most listened-to Indie music radio program in the world! The regular listenership has reached over 350,000 unique visits (listeners) per month. The artists featured on this show are also heard by established artists, music business professionals and A&R reps from record companies around the world.Fame Games is an International Indie Music Radio Program available for on-demand listening across the Web, Fame Games is also aired on the largest and best-established English-language radio station in the South of Spain, Onda Cero International (101.6 FM and 94.6 FM). Fame Games airs live on Wednesdays: 8:00 PM (Qualifier Show) and Saturdays: 5:00 PM (CET) (Main Show)
Fame Games 199-Q / Tuesday Edition Clint Crisher and Lick It Pull It Love It Suck It
Current Tuesday Q rank: 1 Current Q199 rank: 2 Contenders 2 CLICK BELOW TO VOTE!
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
AIDS Walk
As we gear up for the 24th AIDS Walk Los Angeles on October 19, we find ourselves at an extraordinary time in the epidemic. More people than ever before are living with HIV/AIDS in the United States. Yet funding for domestic HIV/AIDS programs is shrinking, and here in California, HIV prevention programs lost $5 million in funding in the new budget.
As lawmakers in Washington respond to the country’s financial crisis, organizations like AIDS Project Los Angeles face a dramatic increase in demand for help. We simply cannot let low-income men and women with HIV/AIDS face unthinkable choices -- between food or shelter, medicine or dental care. You can do your part by signing up for AIDS Walk today, or by supporting your friends who are walking with us.
As lawmakers in Washington respond to the country’s financial crisis, organizations like AIDS Project Los Angeles face a dramatic increase in demand for help. We simply cannot let low-income men and women with HIV/AIDS face unthinkable choices -- between food or shelter, medicine or dental care. You can do your part by signing up for AIDS Walk today, or by supporting your friends who are walking with us.
Craig E. Thompson
Executive Director
AIDS Project Los Angeles
(APLA) is one of the largest non-profit AIDS service organizations in the United States, provides bilingual direct services, prevention education and leadership on HIV/AIDS-related policy and legislation. Marking 25 years of service in 2008, APLA is a community-based, volunteer-supported organization with local, national and global reach.
About APLA
About APLA
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The Hot Boys Sexpert September 2008
The Hot Boys Sexpert September 2008
Storytime (Sept. 1-7, 2008)
What is a "bug chaser?"
A bug chaser is a gay man who deliberately attempts to contract HIV by having unprotected sex with a man or group of men who are known to have the virus.
What is a "gift giver?"
A gift giver is an HIV positive gay man who deliberately transmits the virus, often times to bug chasers, or those willing to contract it.
Playtime
They are known as “Bug Chasers” and they seek out other people who are willing to get them infected with HIV.
Within these circles, these people, usually gay men, talk about ”poz” and “neg” men, “bug juice” and “conversion” from negative to positive. Their screen names include BugChaser21, Knockmeup, BugMeSoon, ConvertMeSir, PozCum4NegHole and GiftGiver.
Internet web sites are the only place a bug seeker can really express his desires openly, posting requests like ”hot poz load deep in me”, or ”I really want to be converted!! Breed me/seed me!” Another wants to be filled up , “with that poison seed.”
It’s not uncommon to see people post replies either.
Spokes people from Yahoo! and Google claim they shut down such sites when they receive a notice that the subscribers are promoting HIV infection. Yet it is pretty easy to find discussion groups on the net that promote HIV. We will not reprint any links here.
Bug chasers openly ridicule condom use and safe sex. In fact they promote unsafe sex. Bug chasers only care about freedom, not consequences. They’re philosophy is, what can happen that’s worse?
Is this what American and indeed, world culture has come to? We are so desparate for the thrill that we will go to any length, cross any line - risk anything? This segment of gay men has romanticized ‘bug chasing’ to the point of likening it to children running around a playground looking for ants - and being thrilled when they find one. Their motives are baffling.
I’m not seeing the eroticism, the thrill, or the romance in this. I only see a perverse sexual under-culture, of possibly mentally disturbed people, that is working to undermine safe sex for both gays and heterosexual people alike.
Love
RuPaul
http://gaylife.about.com/cs/gay101/a/bugparties.htm
http://capitolstreet.wordpress.com/2008/07/15/bug-chasers-and-their-dangerous-game/
If you have any questions for the Sexpert never hesitate to ask anything like how to where to get tested or if there is something strange on the tip of your dick or even if you think that the condom broke and you are afraid contact me at The Hot Boys Sexpert
Nothing is Taboo.
Clubbing/Partying:
You never know exactly why some people have a death wish nor does it really matter but the best thing for anybody to think about is the risks of unprotected sex. When you go anywhere in the Gay scene you have to think of it as war. Each day you leave your house you must constantly ask yourself “ is this the day that I get it “ maybe you just don’t have sex because you are afraid and therefore you have decided to take a denial approach. The important thing to remember is that you can’t deny that you are at risk not can you deny the fact that there are thousands of men out there waiting and watching you so that they can give you the gift that they hold so dear.
When you go out you see them but you don’t know that they are there. They seem like everyone else but then again there seems to be something free about them that seems to intrigue you but you can’t quite put your finger on it. Nothing can prepare you for the fateful surprise they are hiding.
A couple months ago we spoke about sex parties and the impact on the gay community and the safety tips to dealing with going and participating. Last month we spoke about fetishes and sexual habits and the many things that go along with that. What you may not know is that even though it seems a little off bug chasers are turned on by the draw of a gift giver party, that is their fetish. Bug chasers think that first of all they won’t have to worry about the need for condoms and that they will only have to take a pill or two once a day and that will make them feel better. Wrong! Many men have to struggle with the side effects: nausea, vomiting, unusual muscle pain, weakness, the whites of your eyes turn yellow, liver problems and these are just symptoms from one medication though they all vary these side effects are more than many men bargain for and that is when they feel sorry for themselves and try to say poor me and make this huge story about how they were romanced by a man with a gift. I only see one thing, you went out and decided to put your body at risk and not treat it like the temple it is and now you realize what a mistake you made and want to return the gift but this store has a no return policy. You can’t return it once you got it. We here at the hot boys world are not supporters of these activities rather we encourage safe and fun sexual practices.
Many bug chasers believe also that along with just taking one pill they no longer have to worry about wearing a condom ever again. Wrong! This is where the thinking gets a little messed up. When you are infected with HIV, you have to consider all the other strains of HIV out there. HIV is growing stronger everyday and it seems that it keeps evolving more and more every time it gets swapped out for another one. When you put two strains of HIV together they can have devastating effects that could potentially kill you. Your doctor knows your strain and he/she knows the medications that will work for your particular strain of HIV but if you mutate your particular strain of HIV then you may have more health problems than you anticipated. The antiviral load of each person may vary and each medication is catered to the individual and no one else. You may find some people on the same medications as you but you will soon notice that you are the one your doctor knows. To have unprotected sex with someone who is HIV positive without protection is dangerous only because your body is different than others. We all may be created equal but our bodies are chemically different.
Swapping stands is not a good idea.
Thinking about your body is important. You are the one who lives your life. Never let anyone try to take your life. Open your eyes and think about how you can live your life to the fullest. HIV is a serious problem for the gay community but it doesn’t mean a death sentence nor does it mean you have no responsibility to yourself. You are important to this world and should protect yourself from anything that will hurt the life that you live…Run Baby Run from all those who would do your body harm. Love yourself and if you really want to keep it safe remember these things:
Use a condom.
Talk to your partner about their status.
Use common sense.
Use toys and protection the proper way.
Stay Abstinent.
These are just a few suggestions but if you find that you just can’t bring yourself to do any of these things then just go ahead and doctor grip yourself. Cuz, when you work out a detail on yourself you will ultimately have the most fun. I believe that masturbation is the best thing in the world.
If you have any questions for the Sexpert never hesitate to ask anything like how to where to get tested or if there is something strange on the tip of your dick or even if you think that the condom broke and you are afraid contact me at The Hot Boys Sexpert
Nothing is Taboo.
Wrap Up:
When you think about all the reasons why being a bug chaser is cra cra (crazy), you start thinking about how you have so many things to live for without the overcoming need to just give up. HIV is not a death warrant but it isn’t a toy either the one thing you have to remember is that if you want to participate in this lifestyle please do two things first:
Consult a Psychologist
Consult your Physician
You will notice that these two people will ultimately either convince you to change your mind or give you the necessary tools to make sure that you are safe and possibly help you realize your full potential in life. The one question they, and possibly many others, will ask is “why?” and I hope it is a good answer because I can see no other reason than because you know what you are doing. Life is not just a toy but it is a responsibility and we each have a part to play. Shakespeare said “All the worlds a stage and the men and women are merely playing their parts” What part are you playing?
http://gaylife.about.com/cs/gay101/a/bugparties.htm
http://capitolstreet.wordpress.com/2008/07/15/bug-chasers-and-their-dangerous-game/
I am a 21 year old guy with a great job and friends that are awesome but I get the feeling that I might want to participate in this party that I keep hearing about and I don’t know, but the men seem questionable but they are really nice and they all want to “breed” me but I get the feeling that there are just so many things at risk if I decide to participate in this party and it seems like a lot of work afterwards but I am confused about the kinds of drugs out there but most of all I want to know is how much of a risk am I taking if I go and participate?
Participator
You are putting yourself at extreme risk. There are numerous drugs out there like Truvada, Altripla, Viread, Emtriva, Combivir but the one thing to remember is that these are all viral medications that will inhibit the virus but not cure it and the other thing to remember is that all the side effects can be potentially dangerous to your body in particular. If these men want you then you should feel honored but remember their intentions are not honorable. I can’t impress upon you how important it is that you protect yourself and think before you don’t wrap it up. These men don’t care about your life just infecting you and who knows possibly hurting you, think about the aftermath and research it to its fullest think about what you will have to do after you get infected testing and doctor appointments and medications and the cost of all these things combined. What is more important, your health and wellbeing and keeping your money for drinks with friends or sickness and medical bills for life and less or potentially no money for drinks with your friends. Keep in mind that you put yourself in a whole new category of men when you contract HIV and many men will not even consider you for a date because of the fear and ignorance that surrounds HIV these days. These are the things to consider when invited to one of these “gift giver parties”.
Sexpert
As a gay male in the club scene I find that I want sex more than ever and my appetite seems to just grow and grow but what seems to not change is my need for a condom every time I have sex. I have met men who want me to take their load and I simply get up and grab my clothes and walk out but sometimes I just wonder what it would be like to not use a condom and this worries me because I get the feeling that I may be at risk for numerous things that could endanger my life. What do you suggest I do?
Wonderer
I have one thing to say. NO! Never think that a condom is the last frontier in gay sex. There are tons of men who want only to have safe, protected, enjoyable sex across the world. If you want to make sex more exciting maybe you could find a sex partner in another city or maybe another state and create some mystery and even some hunger for this person. If you think that sex was fun before you will be in for a great and wonderful surprise when you drive or fly to another state just to have sex with someone or maybe you can just find a social network or men whom you feel comfortable with and enjoy their company. Ultimately the only way I can see you not using a condom or for you to stop using condoms is if you have found a serious, monogamous relationship that has lasted more than one year. Besides you seem the type that can’t be bothered with the minor details and I would hate for you to have to work out the details of pills and doctors and numerous other ailments that go along with it.
Sexpert
I was infected about three years ago and I was not told that the man I had sex with was HIV positive. The hardest part was finally getting tested and finding out that I was positive. I don’t know how to describe how devastating it was when those words came out of the doctor’s mouth I thought I was dreaming and I actually fainted and had to call a friend to pick me up from the clinic. I fell into a depression and denied for many months that I was infected and there were many days that I would just lay in bed and cry and there were days that I would just walk around in a daze at work. I am now three years later a happier person but I always hear about bug chasers and I have men approaching me online to infect them and I just get so repulsed by it. I wasn’t given the choice, I was infected by someone who had a vindictive mind and didn’t think that I would be feeling anything about the consequences that would come along with it. I just want all the other Hot Boys to know that I don’t think a bug chaser is a smart person but a gift giver is by far the worst person in my mind and I have no compassion for these particular people.
HBI
Your story is not uncommon and for many who don’t seem to get it think it sounds a lot like a vampire romance. Tom Cruzes character always made it known that he wasn’t given the choice that he was giving Brad Pitt, I love Anne Rice. The point is that no matter what, that is fiction and if you remember HIV is almost like being a vampire, you are infected and then you have no other way of getting out of it other than burning up or in our case burning out. These days it is easier to let someone whom you gave an STD/STI to but the hardest part is letting someone know before sex that you have a contactable infection or virus. These are all things you should be talking about anyways with your partner before you have sex. HBI has the right mentality he is repulsed by the bug chasers because he realizes the value of life. He also realizes that because others are gift givers doesn’t mean that he has to be also.
Many men when they find out they are infected find that depression is part of their life but it isn’t a death sentence. Many men who are positive lead productive and healthy lives. Personally I have always believed that these men are just bored and have found a new pastime to make life for others just as miserable as theirs are. HBI, I have to thank you for telling your story and I know you are a much stronger person when you tell and warn about the dangers of Gift Givers because I know the pain of that persons evil will haunt you but remember, your life is long and lived only by you so don’t give up.
Sexpert
http://www.inspotla.org/
http://www.reallycheckyourself.org/
If you have any questions for the Sexpert never hesitate to ask anything like how to where to get tested or if there is something strange on the tip of your dick or even if you think that the condom broke and you are afraid contact me at The Hot Boys Sexpert
Nothing is Taboo.
Storytime (Sept. 1-7, 2008)
What is a "bug chaser?"
A bug chaser is a gay man who deliberately attempts to contract HIV by having unprotected sex with a man or group of men who are known to have the virus.
What is a "gift giver?"
A gift giver is an HIV positive gay man who deliberately transmits the virus, often times to bug chasers, or those willing to contract it.
Playtime
They are known as “Bug Chasers” and they seek out other people who are willing to get them infected with HIV.
Within these circles, these people, usually gay men, talk about ”poz” and “neg” men, “bug juice” and “conversion” from negative to positive. Their screen names include BugChaser21, Knockmeup, BugMeSoon, ConvertMeSir, PozCum4NegHole and GiftGiver.
Internet web sites are the only place a bug seeker can really express his desires openly, posting requests like ”hot poz load deep in me”, or ”I really want to be converted!! Breed me/seed me!” Another wants to be filled up , “with that poison seed.”
It’s not uncommon to see people post replies either.
Spokes people from Yahoo! and Google claim they shut down such sites when they receive a notice that the subscribers are promoting HIV infection. Yet it is pretty easy to find discussion groups on the net that promote HIV. We will not reprint any links here.
Bug chasers openly ridicule condom use and safe sex. In fact they promote unsafe sex. Bug chasers only care about freedom, not consequences. They’re philosophy is, what can happen that’s worse?
Is this what American and indeed, world culture has come to? We are so desparate for the thrill that we will go to any length, cross any line - risk anything? This segment of gay men has romanticized ‘bug chasing’ to the point of likening it to children running around a playground looking for ants - and being thrilled when they find one. Their motives are baffling.
I’m not seeing the eroticism, the thrill, or the romance in this. I only see a perverse sexual under-culture, of possibly mentally disturbed people, that is working to undermine safe sex for both gays and heterosexual people alike.
Love
RuPaul
http://gaylife.about.com/cs/gay101/a/bugparties.htm
http://capitolstreet.wordpress.com/2008/07/15/bug-chasers-and-their-dangerous-game/
If you have any questions for the Sexpert never hesitate to ask anything like how to where to get tested or if there is something strange on the tip of your dick or even if you think that the condom broke and you are afraid contact me at The Hot Boys Sexpert
Nothing is Taboo.
Clubbing/Partying:
You never know exactly why some people have a death wish nor does it really matter but the best thing for anybody to think about is the risks of unprotected sex. When you go anywhere in the Gay scene you have to think of it as war. Each day you leave your house you must constantly ask yourself “ is this the day that I get it “ maybe you just don’t have sex because you are afraid and therefore you have decided to take a denial approach. The important thing to remember is that you can’t deny that you are at risk not can you deny the fact that there are thousands of men out there waiting and watching you so that they can give you the gift that they hold so dear.
When you go out you see them but you don’t know that they are there. They seem like everyone else but then again there seems to be something free about them that seems to intrigue you but you can’t quite put your finger on it. Nothing can prepare you for the fateful surprise they are hiding.
A couple months ago we spoke about sex parties and the impact on the gay community and the safety tips to dealing with going and participating. Last month we spoke about fetishes and sexual habits and the many things that go along with that. What you may not know is that even though it seems a little off bug chasers are turned on by the draw of a gift giver party, that is their fetish. Bug chasers think that first of all they won’t have to worry about the need for condoms and that they will only have to take a pill or two once a day and that will make them feel better. Wrong! Many men have to struggle with the side effects: nausea, vomiting, unusual muscle pain, weakness, the whites of your eyes turn yellow, liver problems and these are just symptoms from one medication though they all vary these side effects are more than many men bargain for and that is when they feel sorry for themselves and try to say poor me and make this huge story about how they were romanced by a man with a gift. I only see one thing, you went out and decided to put your body at risk and not treat it like the temple it is and now you realize what a mistake you made and want to return the gift but this store has a no return policy. You can’t return it once you got it. We here at the hot boys world are not supporters of these activities rather we encourage safe and fun sexual practices.
Many bug chasers believe also that along with just taking one pill they no longer have to worry about wearing a condom ever again. Wrong! This is where the thinking gets a little messed up. When you are infected with HIV, you have to consider all the other strains of HIV out there. HIV is growing stronger everyday and it seems that it keeps evolving more and more every time it gets swapped out for another one. When you put two strains of HIV together they can have devastating effects that could potentially kill you. Your doctor knows your strain and he/she knows the medications that will work for your particular strain of HIV but if you mutate your particular strain of HIV then you may have more health problems than you anticipated. The antiviral load of each person may vary and each medication is catered to the individual and no one else. You may find some people on the same medications as you but you will soon notice that you are the one your doctor knows. To have unprotected sex with someone who is HIV positive without protection is dangerous only because your body is different than others. We all may be created equal but our bodies are chemically different.
Swapping stands is not a good idea.
Thinking about your body is important. You are the one who lives your life. Never let anyone try to take your life. Open your eyes and think about how you can live your life to the fullest. HIV is a serious problem for the gay community but it doesn’t mean a death sentence nor does it mean you have no responsibility to yourself. You are important to this world and should protect yourself from anything that will hurt the life that you live…Run Baby Run from all those who would do your body harm. Love yourself and if you really want to keep it safe remember these things:
Use a condom.
Talk to your partner about their status.
Use common sense.
Use toys and protection the proper way.
Stay Abstinent.
These are just a few suggestions but if you find that you just can’t bring yourself to do any of these things then just go ahead and doctor grip yourself. Cuz, when you work out a detail on yourself you will ultimately have the most fun. I believe that masturbation is the best thing in the world.
If you have any questions for the Sexpert never hesitate to ask anything like how to where to get tested or if there is something strange on the tip of your dick or even if you think that the condom broke and you are afraid contact me at The Hot Boys Sexpert
Nothing is Taboo.
Wrap Up:
When you think about all the reasons why being a bug chaser is cra cra (crazy), you start thinking about how you have so many things to live for without the overcoming need to just give up. HIV is not a death warrant but it isn’t a toy either the one thing you have to remember is that if you want to participate in this lifestyle please do two things first:
Consult a Psychologist
Consult your Physician
You will notice that these two people will ultimately either convince you to change your mind or give you the necessary tools to make sure that you are safe and possibly help you realize your full potential in life. The one question they, and possibly many others, will ask is “why?” and I hope it is a good answer because I can see no other reason than because you know what you are doing. Life is not just a toy but it is a responsibility and we each have a part to play. Shakespeare said “All the worlds a stage and the men and women are merely playing their parts” What part are you playing?
http://gaylife.about.com/cs/gay101/a/bugparties.htm
http://capitolstreet.wordpress.com/2008/07/15/bug-chasers-and-their-dangerous-game/
I am a 21 year old guy with a great job and friends that are awesome but I get the feeling that I might want to participate in this party that I keep hearing about and I don’t know, but the men seem questionable but they are really nice and they all want to “breed” me but I get the feeling that there are just so many things at risk if I decide to participate in this party and it seems like a lot of work afterwards but I am confused about the kinds of drugs out there but most of all I want to know is how much of a risk am I taking if I go and participate?
Participator
You are putting yourself at extreme risk. There are numerous drugs out there like Truvada, Altripla, Viread, Emtriva, Combivir but the one thing to remember is that these are all viral medications that will inhibit the virus but not cure it and the other thing to remember is that all the side effects can be potentially dangerous to your body in particular. If these men want you then you should feel honored but remember their intentions are not honorable. I can’t impress upon you how important it is that you protect yourself and think before you don’t wrap it up. These men don’t care about your life just infecting you and who knows possibly hurting you, think about the aftermath and research it to its fullest think about what you will have to do after you get infected testing and doctor appointments and medications and the cost of all these things combined. What is more important, your health and wellbeing and keeping your money for drinks with friends or sickness and medical bills for life and less or potentially no money for drinks with your friends. Keep in mind that you put yourself in a whole new category of men when you contract HIV and many men will not even consider you for a date because of the fear and ignorance that surrounds HIV these days. These are the things to consider when invited to one of these “gift giver parties”.
Sexpert
As a gay male in the club scene I find that I want sex more than ever and my appetite seems to just grow and grow but what seems to not change is my need for a condom every time I have sex. I have met men who want me to take their load and I simply get up and grab my clothes and walk out but sometimes I just wonder what it would be like to not use a condom and this worries me because I get the feeling that I may be at risk for numerous things that could endanger my life. What do you suggest I do?
Wonderer
I have one thing to say. NO! Never think that a condom is the last frontier in gay sex. There are tons of men who want only to have safe, protected, enjoyable sex across the world. If you want to make sex more exciting maybe you could find a sex partner in another city or maybe another state and create some mystery and even some hunger for this person. If you think that sex was fun before you will be in for a great and wonderful surprise when you drive or fly to another state just to have sex with someone or maybe you can just find a social network or men whom you feel comfortable with and enjoy their company. Ultimately the only way I can see you not using a condom or for you to stop using condoms is if you have found a serious, monogamous relationship that has lasted more than one year. Besides you seem the type that can’t be bothered with the minor details and I would hate for you to have to work out the details of pills and doctors and numerous other ailments that go along with it.
Sexpert
I was infected about three years ago and I was not told that the man I had sex with was HIV positive. The hardest part was finally getting tested and finding out that I was positive. I don’t know how to describe how devastating it was when those words came out of the doctor’s mouth I thought I was dreaming and I actually fainted and had to call a friend to pick me up from the clinic. I fell into a depression and denied for many months that I was infected and there were many days that I would just lay in bed and cry and there were days that I would just walk around in a daze at work. I am now three years later a happier person but I always hear about bug chasers and I have men approaching me online to infect them and I just get so repulsed by it. I wasn’t given the choice, I was infected by someone who had a vindictive mind and didn’t think that I would be feeling anything about the consequences that would come along with it. I just want all the other Hot Boys to know that I don’t think a bug chaser is a smart person but a gift giver is by far the worst person in my mind and I have no compassion for these particular people.
HBI
Your story is not uncommon and for many who don’t seem to get it think it sounds a lot like a vampire romance. Tom Cruzes character always made it known that he wasn’t given the choice that he was giving Brad Pitt, I love Anne Rice. The point is that no matter what, that is fiction and if you remember HIV is almost like being a vampire, you are infected and then you have no other way of getting out of it other than burning up or in our case burning out. These days it is easier to let someone whom you gave an STD/STI to but the hardest part is letting someone know before sex that you have a contactable infection or virus. These are all things you should be talking about anyways with your partner before you have sex. HBI has the right mentality he is repulsed by the bug chasers because he realizes the value of life. He also realizes that because others are gift givers doesn’t mean that he has to be also.
Many men when they find out they are infected find that depression is part of their life but it isn’t a death sentence. Many men who are positive lead productive and healthy lives. Personally I have always believed that these men are just bored and have found a new pastime to make life for others just as miserable as theirs are. HBI, I have to thank you for telling your story and I know you are a much stronger person when you tell and warn about the dangers of Gift Givers because I know the pain of that persons evil will haunt you but remember, your life is long and lived only by you so don’t give up.
Sexpert
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http://www.reallycheckyourself.org/
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